My Complete Love, Life Story

MY 1ST EX BF

He was pretty much a rebound. And i was kinda desperate because at that time, I felt that as long as someone could appreciate and love me, I'd be settled and contented. I was painfully average back then, in terms of looks, brains and sex appeal. So after a few painful rejections from guys that I had crushes on, I was pretty excited that someone would actually like me for me. So I rushed into a relationship. Our honeymoon period didn't last long. I refused to kiss him and he was a little pushy, and pervy. So I decided to end the relationship because he was starting to creep me out. The relationship lasted only for a month.


THE TRANSITION 

Few weeks after the ended relationship, I had encounters with many other guys (8 of them), of which 2 of them left deep impressions. One was this sweet but slightly obsessed guy called J and the other was another sweet talented guy called D who could play the violin really well.

If not for some of my close besties, I probably would have be together with J. My besties warned me about J being really desperate and a complete weirdo. So I already had a mental note embedded in me that I would never, ever be with him. In poly year 1, I had trouble coping with my economics module. I failed my common test by 0.5 and was DEVASTATED. I really felt like the world was going to end because I DON'T FAIL.

So anyway, J, previously a JC student, offered to give me tuition until my next re-test. He would accompany me home after school and give me tuition till 2am in the morning. I was really touched by his actions but even so, my subconscious would stop me from falling in love with him. So anyway, after a few days of hard core tuition sessions with him, our hard work paid off when I got my results of 81/100 for my re-test.

Of course, we had a lot of happy times together, but I have always treated him as a friend. He would try and make advancements, but stopped immediately by my "no". Although I felt that somehow I should show some gratitude to him, it should, by no means, be something that will make me regret in the future.

How I finally managed to reject J was with the help of D. D was initially a really close good friend who m i got to know from my second ex. D offered to be a decoy bf in order to shake of J and it kind of worked? The rejection was brutal and I felt so bad because I really thought J was a good guy. So after that, I got closer to D and very soon we hung out with each other more often. We went for movies together, shared stories together, lunched out together and had lots of fun. Before you know it, D fell for me. The confession was on his 21st birthday and sadly enough, that was the day I rejected him and got together with his best buddy, my second ex.


MY SECOND EX BF



The relationship with my second bf was not a rushed relationship. I had a crush on him for about 4 months and we got to know each other for about a year before we got together. Initially, I was so impressed with him to the point that I felt inferior and lame about myself. I thought he was pretty good looking, had enough brains, musically talented and quite well-off. At the start of getting to know him, he was telling me about how his parents were once millionaires and his house is actually 2 4 room flats put together. He also has two laptops, a macbook pro and a HP touchscreen laptop. He also told me that he plays the piano. So naturally, like any other girl, I got attracted to these factors.

After being together with him for a while (6 months), I realized that I had been conned! His parents are/were not millionaires, they live a really simple life and eat like porridge with luncheon meat every day. If not stir fried maggie noodles. Also, his house looked like a normal 4 room HDB flat, not 2 HDB flats put together. It was all lies! His mac book pro laptop was sponsored by his rich aunt and his HP touchscreen laptop was just pathetic and falling apart. He never once played the piano for me so I kind of figured out that he simply can't play anymore.

Despite all that, I still wanted to be with him because of his nice character. He is the only guy who will willingly travel to my house whenever I feel down at an ungodly time of 2am in the morning. He is the only guy who will buy me breakfast and accompany me to school from my house. He is the only guy who will accommodate to all my requests without any complains. He is the only guy who made me feel like a queen.

And I took it all for granted.

After a while, I became pushy, spoiled and really temperamental. I would get angry when he's late for our meeting and walk out on him. I would hang up on him every time when I feel like it. I would demand for things that is not within his limits. I would openly criticize and swear at him when i'm annoyed. And while I was doing all that, he only kept silent and took it all in.

After 1 1/2 years, I had completely lost interest in the relationship. Everything went downhill and I could see him struggling to keep the relationship going. He tried everything to make me happy but nothing worked. And after 2 1/2 years, I left him for another guy- my current bf.


MY CURRENT BF



My current relationship changed me. My bf, although patient, doesn't really tolerate my diva queen attitudes. My " I ALWAYS GET WHAT I WANT" mentality got completely crushed by him. I usually don't get what I want. =(( Especially for the bigger things. He will always try and reason it out with me and I will somehow, realize that I was asking too much from him.

Because of my current bf, I have learnt how to cook, bake, clean and control my temper. With him, I've learnt how to apologize.

I became a better person.

But of course, this relationship isn't the most perfect. I had gained and accumulated quite a lot of bad karma points from my previous relationship and they are all now after my sorry ass. Because of a certain ex gf of his, I lost quite a substantial amount of trust in him, had depression and got quite suicidal, lost a lot of weight and cried a lot. I really felt like an idiot for falling so deeply in love with him. But thank heavens, things have turned for the better now and i'm much happier. Although, sometimes, I'm still a little bit haunted by that incident.

How my bf and I met was during my very first event for Roxwell Pte Ltd, an event management company. I was there as a newbie and was given a role as the Emcee Manager. Being the emcee manager wasn't difficult so I got a tiny bit bored. I looked around and saw this malay boy with a bunch of equipments, leaning against a huge ass truck, looking as bored as me. So I decided to be nice.

I approached him and my first sentence was "Hey, are you bored?"

And then the conversation continued with me rambling on and on about myself and my entire life story.

The only thing I remembered was him telling me that he was a performer for SCDF and will be going up soon to perform.

I wasn't really into him yet so I feign interest and went for my lunch.

After lunch, I came back to see him packing all the equipment back, and I was like "it's over? Aww bummer." His encik came over and said " Hey, can you ask him for his number later? I need him now." and I was like "dafaq? I wasn't even going to ask!"

And he asked for my number.

Two days later, he texted me. To be honest, I had completely forgotten about him and was busy handling the other guys who asked for my number during the event. My impression at first when I got his text message was pretty bad. I was wondering why this guy only contacted me 2 days after? Is he such a big shot to contact me as and when he wants? So I shunned him for the 1st day and gave him brief one word answers to all his text messages in hope to shoo him off. But he didn't.

The next day, I received another text message from him. We had a brief conversation and he popped the question.




"How old are you?"

"Guess?"

"24?"

"WTH!? Thank you very much"




I was deeply offended.


But little did I know that it was all part of his devious plan to ask me out.




"How bout I make it up to you?"

"like?"

"I'll buy you dinner"

"Considering"

"Would you fancy high altitude dining?"

"Why not."

And we fixed a date. That was our very 1st date.







And i'm praying that this will be my last relationship...with many more good memories to come...

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